Dear Beautiful and Important Soul,

You have been through a lot, to say the least, and like so many of us, you have most likely been going through this healing journey alone. This retreat is here so you don’t have to anymore. Over these seven powerful weeks, we will walk this path together.

After being in a relationship with a covert narcissist, whether you were raised by one, married to one, in a partnership, or friendship with one, the effects are lingering and can keep us down for a long time, unless we take the reins and steer this ship in a different direction.

We are impacted in so many ways by these relationships. We lose our sense of self. We experience low self-esteem, low self-confidence, and low self-worth. We find ourselves getting triggered easily and feeling emotionally unstable.

We often end up isolating ourselves from others because the world feels too loud and too fast. Fear and anxiety become prevalent emotions in us.
We feel exhausted, and often have unexplained chronic health issues. Living in a constant state of fight, fight, freeze, or fawn can become our new normal.

We compare ourselves to others who appear to be thriving, and we can’t imagine how we could get to a life like that, feeling the way we are feeling now. We end up blaming ourselves, thinking we are the problem, that something is wrong with is. Nothing could be further from the truth. All we are experiencing has nothing to do with who we are but is a natural result of all we have been through.

I know this road well. Everything I have just described, I have experienced myself, and because I have, my heart has tremendous compassion and empathy, as well as massive respect for you. To go through all you have, and be someone who is pursuing healing for yourself , by exploring this retreat, shows incredible strength and character.

After experiencing many covert narcissists throughout my life, and working on my own healing and understanding of narcissistic personality disorder, I wrote several books on the subject of covert narcissism and the path to healing afterwards, including The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist, Worthy of Love, and The Safest Place Possible. I have coached many people who have been through these relationships and have created online courses on these topics, but this is the first time I have decided to go live with this information.

This can be a lonely and isolating road. This is why I decided to create this retreat. So we could gather together, and I could not only share with you what I have learned, what has worked for me and my clients, but also take you on a journey, a collective and individual experience that will help heal and transform the wounds you have received, bringing you back to your true, whole self, so you will be able to move forward and live a life that brings you joy, one that is honoring of the person you are.

This retreat will have limited attendance so we can experience the feeling of an intimate, supportive, and loving community that is so needed right now. I have no doubt that special friendships will be made during this gathering.

Let’s Get to The Root of What Happened to You During These Relationships...

You met someone or were raised by someone (or both), whose identity was built around an illusion of superiority.

To maintain their sense of superiority, they chose to dominate you, and the most effective way to retain sovereignty over you was to control and alter the perception you have of yourself. Once you begin to doubt your own perception of who you are, you become easier to manipulate and control, especially if this perception has to do with the very core of who you are.

For someone to control us, they need to break us down so we cannot see the truth of who we are, for if we knew the truth, and were rooted in it, we would be immune to manipulation.

The purpose of the controlling and manipulation tactics of a covert narcissist - the gaslighting, triangulation, smear campaigns, intermittent reinforcement, subtle devaluing and demeaning acts such as criticism disguised as concern, backhanded compliments, and the silent treatment, is to break us down so we cannot see clearly.

Many of the underlying messages of all these tactics are - Your intelligence, your confidence, the way you live your life is flawed, you are flawed, you cannot trust your instincts, whatever you achieve will never be enough, you will never be enough, you are not worthy of praise, you are not worthy of joy, and you are not worthy of love. You are lacking in some fundamental way. You are flawed, even in your strongest moments.

They will try every method they know to make you question yourself, question your intelligence, your intuition, your strength, your capabilities, and your worth.

After years of this, often decades, we lose a clear sense of who we really are. Many of us can’t get in touch with basic understandings or knowledge of ourselves. What do we like? What brings us joy? What lights us up inside? What sounds fun to us?

The answers often elude us, and in their absence, we feel lost, and alone. This erosion of self happens slowly, gradually, over time, without us realizing it, because the breaking down of us was so subtle. So, how do we find our way back home to the truth of who we are, and heal the hidden wounds within?

Here Is the Way Back That You Will Experience During this Retreat...

Very gently, with unconditional love, respect, and compassion for all you have been through, we will begin unraveling the untruths you have been told about who you are. We will put right, that which has been wronged.

Then we will rebuild. We will gather the clues to who you really are; the pieces of the puzzle that will lead you to a clear, accurate, and beautiful picture of the person you have always been.

Together we will go on a journey of self-discovery, and you will learn to connect with yourself in a whole new way.

You will work on an exciting project throughout the seven weeks that will help you see the truth of who you are.


The most powerful and long-lasting way to heal from these relationships and safeguard yourself from future ones, is to become incredibly strong and clear in who you are.

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” - Aristotle

This retreat is for you if you have already learned about the traits of a covert narcissist,
and you are now ready to unravel the untruths you have been told about
yourself and restore the real story of you.

This time together will not be focused on the narcissist or understanding their traits. The focus will be on you, helping you see clearly, so you can move forward in life with confidence, peace, and strength. As you build this relationship with yourself, you will become someone who trusts your instincts, someone who is able to see your capabilities and your worth, and someone who is no longer a target for someone else’s manipulation. You will stand in your own power, your own authority, with the awareness and understanding of how important your own path is.

This dismantling of yourself happened over time. The rebuilding will take time too, but the transformation you will feel and see in yourself will be incredible.

Each week we will address different elements that are essential to restoring who you are. There will projects we will work on together each week, and some to take home and explore on your own. There will be many times of sharing and connection as we walk this road together.

Welcome to this special gathering of souls who are ready to see the truth and walk a new path of strength, freedom, and well-deserved joy.

Why I Call This a Retreat

When I feel into this special time together, I imagine all of us at a beautiful retreat in nature. There are lots of trees, flowers, places to roam. Maybe a pond or a lake on the property to sit by. Blankets under trees to spend time in the quiet, journalling, reconnecting with the truth of who you are. At night we would gather around a warm fire and share with each other, feeling, and knowing we are not alone. This is the feel of this online retreat. 

Maybe someday this physical gathering will happen. 

Until then, we get to have an experience from the comfort of our homes and be able to learn and grow together in a way that is more accessible and feasible, so more survivors and have the opportunity to be able to attend a sacred retreat like this. 

A Peek into What Each Session Will Look Like…

Week One – Rewriting the False Messages You Have Received About Yourself

(Thursday, June 26th)

This week will be a special time of meeting each other. We will begin to uncover the false messages you received about yourself. Debbie will lead the group through exercises to dismantle these beliefs, creating new neural pathways of truth.

This will be the unraveling before the rebuilding. A very important step in the journey of finding your way home to the truth of who you are.

There will be an exploratory practice for you to do on your own during the week, and an invitation to share your discoveries and experiences in the next session.

Week Three - Becoming the Safest Place Possible

(Thursday, July 10th)

Part of strengthening who we are, and building a new relationship with ourselves is learning how to become a safe place inside ourselves.

Most of us have been living in fight, flight, freeze, or fawning for a long time, as an understandable way to survive the situations we were in. Most of our autonomic nervous systems has become dysregulated as a result. Our body needs to know that we are safe in order to come back to homeostasis. This session will be focused on how to do that.

We will discuss the elements that are needed to become a safe place as well as ways to regulate our nervous system.

There will be an exploratory practice for you to do on your own during the week, and an invitation to share your discoveries and experiences in the next session.

Week Five – The Song of Your Heart

(Thursday, July 24th)

For most of us, the song in our heart has been silence or suppressed or told, in one way or another, it is not welcome or wanted. You are here for a reason. You are here to feel fully alive and sing your own song, in whatever way that looks for you. This week, we will begin to explore the calling of your heart. We will dare to dream, and we won’t hold back, because your dreams matter, your heart matters.

There will be one final exploratory practice for you to do on your own during the week, and an invitation to share your discoveries and experiences in the next session.

Week Two – The Rebuilding of Who You Are

(Thursday, July 3rd)

This week we begin rebuilding your sense of self through an exploratory, powerful, and playful project that we will be building on for the rest of the retreat. This will be the beginning of you forming an accurate picture of who you are.

Doing this will help dissolve the untruths you have been told and create strength, clarity, and resilience in you.

There will be an exploratory practice for you to do on your own during the week, and an invitation to share your discoveries and experiences in the next session.

Week Four – Building Self-Confidence

(Thursday, July 17th)

This week we will participate in a powerful exercise to help strengthen your self-confidence. This will build on all the work that has been done over the past few weeks.

You will see more and more of the pieces of you that have been hidden or not encouraged to be seen.

There will be an exploratory practice for you to do on your own during the week, and an invitation to share your discoveries and experiences in the next session.

 

Week Six – Crafting Your New Story

(Thursday, August 7th)

For this final session we will bring together all we have learned and discovered throughout the retreat. This will be a beautiful, supportive, and sacred time of sharing with each other the truth story of who you are, that you have been working on for the past six weeks.

We will end with a powerful and supportive visualization together, an ending ceremony of loving intentions moving forward.

This online retreat will have 6 sessions over 7 weeks.
Each session will be 90 minutes long. Once you have signed up, you will receive a zoom link to sign in for each session. It will be the same link for each week.


Thursdays, begining June 26th, 2025
Dates: June 26th, and July 3, 10, 17, 24, and August 7th

Time: 12pm PST, 3pm EST, 8pm UTC.

Please note: There will be no session on Thursday, July 31st, to give you a chance to integrate
and work more on your important project before meeting for our final session.

~Investment of $997 ~
Payment plans available. Limited to 20 participants.
This is the last time this retreat will be offered at this price.

FAQ:

  • This retreat is for anyone who has had a relationship with a CN, no matter what type that is. The themes we will be discussing apply to all types of relationships whether they were romantic, a family member, a friend, or any other kind.

  • Absolutely! We do ask that you keep your camera on for the first session, so we can see you. This will help create a sense of safety and true connection for the group. But if there are times you need to turn off your camera, that’s perfectly okay.

  • The sessions will not be recorded. This is to protect your privacy and help you feel safe and free to be yourself. What we discuss can be vulnerable and I want you to feel emotionally safe.

  • There are no refunds for this retreat. Due to the nature of this retreat, it is important that you determine that you have the time, energy, and resources to participate before signing up.

  • Over Zoom.

  • 90 minutes.

  • No. This retreat is for the survivor. We will talk about what we are feeling, but this won’t be a time that is narcissist centric. This is about you and your journey back to wholeness.

  • You will want to have a pen and a notebook for each session. There will be many guided exercises throughout the retreat where you will need a place to write your thoughts and findings down. You may even want to purchase a special journal or notebook just for this retreat, if that would bring you joy.

    This will be a special place for you to refer back to it when you need reminders of all you learned during our time together.